10 Rules for winning the game of confidence – Russ Harris

  1. The actions of confidence come first, the feelings of confidence come later
  2. Genuine confidence is not the absence of fear, it is a transformed relationship with fear
  3. Negative thoughts are normal. Don’t fight them, diffuse them.
  4. Self-acceptance trumps self-esteem.
  5. True success is living by your values.
  6. Hold your values lightly, but pursue them vigorously.
  7. Don’t obsess about the outcome, get passionate about the process.
  8. Don’t fight your fear. Allow it, befriend it, and channel it.
  9. Failure hurts, but if we’re willing to learn it’s a wonderful teacher.
  10. The key to peak performance is total engagement in the task.