11/15/21
Winners speak more of coordinating things while losers focus more on controlling them. Power comes from coordination.
– KAIHAN KRIPPENDORFF
November 15, 2021
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In order to be accountable to others you must learn to count on yourself first. – Dad
All experience is subjective. The aim of an argument should not be to persuade or debate who’s perceptions are more accurate. Instead the goal is to gain greater understanding of each other’s subjective reality and of how the issue was handled. That’s how you process past emotional injuries.
– John Gottman
Competing against others is fun, but if your focus is continuously outward it will rob you of your joy as there’s always someone better. However, if you compete against yourself, you can only win. Every time you beat your previous best you’ve just grown more powerful. All of your energies are on self-improvement instead of comparison and over the long run that’s how you become great.
– Dad
The Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse are Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling. While most relationships will have some of these, healthy relationships don’t use them nearly as often and do more to repair them when they are used.
– John Gottman
