12/5/21
If you view the world through the same pattern for too long your brain keeps it no matter if it is working for you or not.
– Shawn Achor
December 5, 2021
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All experience is subjective. The aim of an argument should not be to persuade or debate who’s perceptions are more accurate. Instead the goal is to gain greater understanding of each other’s subjective reality and of how the issue was handled. That’s how you process past emotional injuries.
– John Gottman
The Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse are Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling. While most relationships will have some of these, healthy relationships don’t use them nearly as often and do more to repair them when they are used.
– John Gottman
